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Handling children’s anger can be puzzling, draining, and distressing for adults. As parents, similar feelings stirred up in us as we react and respond to these situations can make this issue even more challenging. We may need to remind ourselves that we didn’t learn the skills necessary to manage our own anger during our youth. In fact, many parents today were conditioned as children to believe that feeling angry was wrong. When we felt or expressed this emotion, we felt guilt and shame. If we let go of this notion, we can better manage our children’s anger and the resulting behavior.<\/p>\n

Parents are encouraged to allow their children to experience all feelings (including strong emotions) and recognize and treat them with respect. Our goal is not to repress angry feelings in our children\u2013or ourselves\u2013but rather to accept these emotions and help channel them to constructive ends. A recent study conducted in 2019 found that parents who encourage their kids to express their feelings raise happier children.<\/a> As they grow older in a household where emotional expression is supported, young adults tend to experience less depression and anxiety.<\/p>\n

As you learn how your child manages their feelings, it’s important to realize that their angry outbursts aren’t always a sign of serious problems. It’s more likely that your child hasn’t yet learned how to manage their emotions appropriately. Parents can play a key role here by providing loving support.<\/p>\n

To start, be open and honest about your feelings in your kids’ presence.\u00a0Your children need to see you as a healthy, active adult who appropriately expresses their feelings. As you express your emotions in helpful ways while showing respect for others, you’re also providing your kids with the opportunity to learn to identify feelings of their own.<\/span><\/p>\n

Additionally, it’s essential to be mindful\u00a0<\/span>of your tone of voice around your children. Use appropriate tone, inflection, and volume during most of your interactions with your children, and your kids will learn to use them as well.\u00a0<\/span>Remember to\u00a0keep your voice calm instead of raising your voice when you’re upset.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

If you have young children, identify their feelings with them.\u00a0For very young children, including toddlers, it’s beneficial to label your children’s emotions in their presence. C<\/span>hildren six years and younger usually have little understanding of how their emotions function. Use words such as angry, mad, sad, happy, frustrated, etc. A lot of emotional learning can take place in these moments.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n