{"id":7079,"date":"2011-09-25T04:10:15","date_gmt":"2011-09-25T04:10:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/parentingtoday.com\/anew\/?page_id=7079"},"modified":"2019-07-23T16:40:17","modified_gmt":"2019-07-23T23:40:17","slug":"talking-to-teenagers","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/childdevelopmentinfo.com\/ages-stages\/teenager-adolescent-development-parenting\/talking-to-teenagers\/","title":{"rendered":"Tips for Getting Teenagers to Open up"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft\" title=\"Click to enlarge\" src=\"https:\/\/childdevelopmentinfo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/09\/teen-boy-dad-car-fix.s200x200.jpg\" alt=\"teen-boy-dad-car-fix\" width=\"140\" height=\"93\" \/><\/p>\n<p>To many parents, their teenager is a closed book, with a padlock, and poison spikes, and maybe a big dog in front of it. At times it seems impossible to get them to open up and talk about their lives. But talking to your teenager and knowing about their lives is one of the best ways to protect them from danger. Spying and snooping around isn\u2019t the best way to get that information either, it will only upset matters if your teen finds out.<\/p>\n<p>Here are a few tips to help your teen open up:<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright\" title=\"Click to enlarge\" src=\"https:\/\/childdevelopmentinfo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/09\/teen-girl-mom-cooking.s200x200.jpg\" alt=\"teen-mom-girl-cooking\" width=\"79\" height=\"119\" \/><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Start young. Keeping a relationship going with your child is easier than starting one when you haven\u2019t had one before. You may find them trying to pull away once they hit a certain age; just keep at it.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Find common ground. Search for things that you and your teen are both interested in. It\u2019s easier to talk about something that you both have in common. That way, you can ask your child about a band\u2019s new album rather than the same old \u201chow was school?\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Be open to what they say. When you get your teen talking, don\u2019t be surprised if they say some things you don\u2019t like. Just be open to what they\u2019re telling you instead of being judgmental. You can tell them you don\u2019t approve of something without attacking them. If they feel comfortable talking about serious things, they\u2019ll be more likely to come to you if they have a problem.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Spend more together. A recent study showed that many teens rate not having enough time with their parents as one of their top concerns. Many teens feel they can\u2019t talk to their parents because they\u2019re always at work or busy doing something else. We often forget to take time out from our hectic lives to pay enough attention to our kids. Some suggestions for spending extra time with your teen are:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Set up a specific time every week to spend time with your teen<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Have dinner at the table with the whole family as often as possible<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Work out or engage in a sport with your kids<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Drive your teen to school instead of sending them on the bus<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>While your teen may be reluctant to talk to you at first, keep trying. Likely, you\u2019ll eventually break them down and they\u2019ll look forward to talking with you and spending time together.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>o many parents, their teenager is a closed book, with a padlock, and poison spikes, and maybe a big dog in front of it. At times it seems impossible to get them to open up and talk about their lives. 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